“Mama may have, and papa may have; God Bless the Child that’s got his own” Billie Halliday

I was an only child for the first 10 years of my life, and then late in life as my parents divorced, and remarried, I was surrounded by virtual tribe of siblings for whom I was the eldest, and the one who was held up to her younger siblings as the model for behavior (I was actually a pretty good kid). There was a time when my mother went through a second divorce and with 3 kids and limited resources, began to lean on me for emotional support that probably no child should have had to give her mother.  That being said,  she weathered the storm, and I was a good child.  I learned a lesson from that experience which was that with family we were all in the same boat together, and whether we sank or swam depended on each member playing his/her part. Now at that time, my youngest siblings were 2 and 4 respectively, I was 13, and my mom was the breadwinner.  Getting a paper route, and being responsible for getting my siblings to daycare as I went to school was my job, my mom did the rest.  I realize my whole life I have been blessed and burdened by this team/shared responsibility, and shared benefits outlook. 

As I have gotten older, I have learned that not everyone sees the world this way, especially when it comes to friendships.  I have always generously shared my friendships, relationships, and contacts with people I felt were my friends.  If you were my friend, you could basically have my complete friendship phone book, or would soon have it because I would introduce you to all my friends, and they would then become your friends.  It has taken me a long, long time to accept that many, if not most, people, are not so generous with their friends.

Similarly, in the sex play world, I have discovered that there are plenty of girls who will gladly play with all your play partners, but never introduce you to theirs. This is a relatively new discovery for me, and a gay boy said the term in the gay world is “selfish bottom”. I always assumed that if I invited a girl to my house, and I had a sex party and I invited 3 guys, that they would invite one or two guys as well.  You don’t know the number of times I have attempted to organize a play party, and invited a girl, and she says ‘I don’t know any guys”, or “I don’t know how to get any guys”. Even though they are regulars in the sex play world, and have a smart phone full of sex contacts.  Actually, what they are saying is ”I don’t want to share any guys”.  It has taken me a long time to figure that out.

Although this girl may not be the sharpest tool in the woodshed, once she learns something, she learns it.

Happy Playing everyone, and remember…God Bless The Child Who Has Her Own Play Partners.